Even when

love Hurts, there’s still Hope

Our FREE webinar is a real-life lifeline for couples who feel stuck, distant, or on the edge of giving up.

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What You’ll Learn in the Webinar

The hidden patterns that keep couples stuck in conflict

A Simple 3 step framework to stop destructive cycles TODAY

A real-life GuideKit to start rebuilding trust and intimacy

Tools and insights born from our relationship and thousands of hours in practice

Do you feel stuck in your relationship? Struggling with constant conflicts? Join our free webinar/session where married couple, parents and clinical psychologists Andrew and Melissa, with a lifetime's worth of experience from their practices and life, share practical tips and insights to help save your relationship.

We are proud to introduce:

This Relationship Thing

"Relationship Rescue"

No More Guesswork in Love

Only Proven Methods

Are you avoiding each other to avoid the the next fight?

If you avoid conflict you avoid the relationship. We'll show you how to fight well.

Do you miss the spark that ignited this love story?

We'll share how we manage to keep the spark alive form a practical, neurological perspective.

Do you want to learn how to trust again without repeating the cycle of hurt?

In our book "Understanding Unlocks" we'll help you turn this hole, into a foundation.

Are you running in circles, desperate to break the pattern?

Doing more of the same and expecting a different result is insanity. It's time for something different!

Do you feel alone, like this relationship is beyond repair?

Misery loves company, but here we are building a community of couples who are committed to building resilient, prosperous relationships, together.

Do you need some tools and insights TODAY to give you hope and get you going?

In our free webinar/session I'll explain why couples fight, and I'll share the simple framework you can implement today to start breaking the cycle.

If you are reading this, then there is still hope...

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What do you get by signing up?

Join our free Relationship Rescue Webinar/session. It's a lifeline for couples who feel stuck, distant, or on the edge of breaking up.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Can "This Relationship Thing" help if we're already considering separation?

Absolutely. Our program is designed to address the root causes of relationship dissatisfaction, whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, emotional disconnect, or other challenges. By applying our strategies focused on empathy, conflict resolution, and deepening connections, many couples have found a new path forward together, even when separation seemed imminent.

Is this program suitable for long-distance relationships?

Yes, “This Relationship Thing” is highly effective for couples in long-distance relationships. The program’s tools and techniques are designed to enhance communication, foster emotional intimacy, and navigate the unique challenges of being apart, making it an ideal resource for couples regardless of distance.

How much time do we need to dedicate to see improvements?

The program is designed to fit into your lifestyle. Many couples begin to notice positive changes within the first few weeks by dedicating just a few hours a week to the exercises and strategies. Consistency and a genuine commitment to applying the principles are key to experiencing transformative results.

Are the strategies in "This Relationship Thing" supported by research?

Yes, every aspect of our program is grounded in clinical psychology and evidence-based practices. Our founders, both registered clinical psychologists, have incorporated the latest research in relationship dynamics, communication theory, and emotional intelligence to create a program that’s both effective and scientifically sound.

How do we handle disagreements about participating in the program?

It’s common for one partner to be more hesitant about trying new approaches. We recommend starting with our free webinar as a low-pressure way to introduce the concepts. The program is designed to be engaging and insightful for both partners, providing immediate value that can motivate continued participation.

What if our specific issue isn't directly addressed in the program?

“This Relationship Thing” covers a wide range of topics and challenges, offering versatile tools that can be applied to various situations. However, we also offer support and guidance through our community and additional resources for more specific or complex issues. We’re committed to helping every couple find solutions that work for them.

Can "This Relationship Thing" replace traditional couples therapy?

While our program can significantly enhance your relationship and may serve as a valuable resource on its own, it’s designed to complement, not replace, traditional therapy. For couples facing severe issues or needing personalized, one-on-one support, we recommend consulting a licensed therapist in addition to using our program.

Didn't Find What You're Looking For?

If you have any additional questions or need further assistance, please feel free to reach out to us. We’re here to help and would love to connect with you. You can contact us via any of our social media platforms or send us an email directly at info@andrewonlife.com

What Clients Say About US

Johan van der Merwe

Cape Town
South Africa

Andrew didn’t just tell me what I wanted to hear; he challenged me to see how my actions were impacting our connections. It wasn’t always easy, but I felt a significant shift with every session. He has taught me not only to see things from another perspective but also to genuinely feel empathy in every relationship.

In my relationship with my wife and son, Andrew has guided me to truly come up to the surface and take a deep breath – literally, with the Wim Hof breathing technique to manage my stress and approach situations with a calmer perspective. This simple practice has made a world of difference in ho I communicate with my wife and connect with my son. His invaluable insights have been transformative.

Samuel Garcia

Johannesburg

South Africa

If there is one thing that changed in my life, and that I try to implement everyday in my relationship and in life, it is EMPATHY.

To see my partner, not as the enemy, but as a teammate. And to approach the problem as a challenge, together, as a team.

It is not me against her but rather US against the problem.

And when I get triggered, take a step back, ask WHY and WHERE does it come from, communicate it to her so she knows my past better and then face the problem.

Sometimes the problem isn’t a problem anymore when I just communicate that I triggerd.

Emily Thompson

Pretoria

South Africa

Kintsugi: the ancient Japanese art of repairing cherished vessels with silver or gold-coated lacquer, beautifully encapsulates the essence of SHIP and TRT with Andrew Visagie. This approach is dedicated to equipping you with the resources and skills necessary to transform your jagged edges into shimmering highlights of silver and gold. Andrew Visagie provides and empathetic and supportive space, fostering growth and healing.

Through this transformative journey, I gained a new perspective, finding peace and a renewed sense of self. Just as Kintsugi turns broken pottery into works of art, SHIP and TRT helped me embrace my imperfections and rebuild my relationship into something stronger and more beautiful that before.

After the webinar we introduce our 10 Day Relationship Rescue Course...

Heal and Transform Your Relationship with our Expert led 10 Day Relationship Rescue Course

Learn from renowned Clinical Psychologists Andrew and Melissa Visagie

Are you ready to your relationship to the next level? Our comprehensive Relationship Rescue course is designed to help you and your partner upgrade your communication skills, resolve existing conflicts, and build a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Based on over 20 years of combined experience, our course provides practical tools and insights that you can apply immediately. Our FREE Webinar is the first step!

What's in the course?

10 Comprehensive Modules

Covering empathy, communication, and conflict resolution.

Real-Life Applications

Techniques you can use in your daily life.

Expert

Guidance

Learn from experienced clinical psychologists.

Flexible

Learning

Life-time access anytime, anywhere.

What's in the Relationship Rescue Course?

Included: Our eBook called "Understanding Unlocks"

A “how to guide” for developing self-awareness and empathy as superpowers to heal and transform relationships.

Day 1: Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Relationships “Context Creates Meaning”

Begin your journey by uncovering how past wounds shape present patterns. This session reveals why “context creates meaning,” helping you and your partner see struggles in a new light while opening the door to healing, empathy, and renewed connection.

Day 2: Navigating Emotions and Vulnerability

Learn how to face overwhelming feelings without letting them control or divide you. This session equips you to share openly, listen bravely, and use vulnerability as a bridge back to trust and intimacy.

Day 3: Managing Reactivity and Conflict Triggers

Break free from the cycle of knee‑jerk reactions that keep you stuck in the same fights. This session gives you practical strategies to recognize your triggers, calm reactivity, and respond with clarity so that conflict becomes a path to understanding instead of disconnection.

Day 4: Communication and the 4 Enemies of Love

Identify the hidden communication patterns that quietly erode connection: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. This session shows you how to replace these “4 Enemies of Love” with skills that foster respect, clarity, and closeness, turning even hard conversations into opportunities for repair.

Day 5: Introducing Person Centered Connections

Discover how Carl Rogers’ person‑centered approach can breathe new life into your relationship. This session teaches you how empathy, authenticity, and unconditional positive regard create the safety and trust needed to reconnect and begin healing together.

Day 6: Cultivating Hope and Resilience, Together

Reignite the belief that your relationship can heal and thrive. This session helps you and your partner build resilience through shared hope, practical strategies, and renewed commitment so that you face challenges as a united team instead of drifting apart.

Day 7: Relationships as Healing Environments

Discover how your relationship can become the safest place to grow, repair, and thrive. This session shows you how to transform your partnership into a healing environment. This is how compassion replaces judgment, and love becomes the catalyst for lasting change.

Day 8: Harnessing Neuro Science – Dopamine and Neuro Science

Tap into the brain’s natural chemistry to reignite joy and closeness in your relationship. This session unpacks how dopamine shapes bonding, motivation, and pleasure and shows you how to intentionally create experiences that keep love exciting, rewarding, and resilient.

Day 9: Integrating Lessons and Strengthening Resilience

Bring it all together by weaving the tools, insights, and breakthroughs from the course into your daily life. This session helps you and your partner transform these new skills into lasting habits and continued resilience that keeps your relationship steady, even when life tests you.

Day 10: Moving Forward: Sustaining love, connection and collaboration

Step into the future with a renewed vision for your relationship. This final session equips you and your partner with the tools to sustain love through ongoing collaboration, intentional connection, and shared purpose. It’s about turning crisis into a foundation for growth, so you can stop just surviving and start thriving!